I don't know what to do now. I'm so confused and scared. I'm in my 2nd year of college. My mom is very traditional, my siblings and I grew up not cursing and answering our parents or elders, so she got used to us not answering her, that's why even if we have a little answer or explanation, she doesn't listen to us even if we explain calmly because for her, HER DECISION IS THE RIGHT ONE. As for money, my brother only finished grade 6, when he had a job, mom would immediately chat with him and ask for money even before payday and she wanted them to split my brother's salary, they always fight over money, she curses at him and throws him out when he can't give anything, so now he left our house because he can't handle mom anymore. I'm just afraid that the same thing will happen to me because of my mom's overcontrol over me, they said "you won't progress if you're not ashamed of your parents" but I just want to enjoy college life, she forbids me from hanging out with my friends no matter what I say right just to hang out, she won't let me. As for money, it's okay with me if I give it to her because I don't have a job yet, I'm a scholar and he gives me my allowance, for example, I go to school 4 days a week, he gives me 100, so 400 a week, and from the educational assistance I get, I give it to him, I'm just asking. I'm the type of person who hears hurtful words like "go away, don't study, just get married, you'll make me suffer like that, you'll only achieve nothing because you're disobedient to your parents," right? Who would be happy to hear this because I'm so afraid of her that I can't even answer what she says because he WON'T LISTEN TO ME. When I always hear that, I think about leaving and just walking away but... I can't do it. It's just that your own mother brought you down.