I am honestly exhausted from having to explain this over and over again. I am not trans. I was born without a uterus and without a vagina because of a rare genetic condition, and my body just did not develop like other women.

My hips never formed the way most women’s hips do and my bones grew in a pattern that is more typical of men’s bodies. That was not something I chose. It was something I was born with and something I have lived with my entire life.

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I am not saying being trans is wrong. I am not saying trans women are not women. They are women. I completely respect trans people and their experiences. My frustration has nothing to do with that. My frustration comes from constantly being told that my biological reality must mean I am secretly trans or lying or confused. I am not any of those things. I am simply a woman whose body did not follow the typical blueprint.

It gets really tiring and honestly hurtful when people make assumptions the moment they notice something different about me. I have dealt with doctors, classmates and strangers questioning my body since I was a teenager. I already carry a lot of insecurity and anxiety around the way I look and the way my body developed. So having people tell me who I am or insist that I must fit into a category I do not belong to feels like losing a piece of myself every time.

I wish people understood that not all women look the same. Not all women have the same anatomy. Not all women fit into the same expectations. Some women like me grow up dealing with infertility, missing organs, birth defects and genetic conditions. Some of us have bodies that do not match what society assumes a woman should look like. And that does not make us any less woman than anyone else.

I am a woman. I have always been a woman. I just happen to have a body that developed differently and it hurts that I have to keep defending that fact. All I want is for people to stop assuming and start learning that the human body is more complicated than the categories we try to force each other into. All I want is the space to exist without having to constantly prove who I am.

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