Sometimes when someone avoids you after hurting you, it’s not indifference — it’s guilt. A guilty conscience can trigger avoidance because facing the person they hurt forces them to confront their actions. Apologizing requires emotional maturity and accountability. Not everyone is ready for that level of growth. Understanding this helps you stop blaming yourself for someone else’s silence. ⸻ guilty conscience psychology why people avoid you psychology of avoidance emotional immaturity lack of accountability why they disappear relationship psychology toxic behavior signs human behavior explained ego defense mechanisms avoidant personality traits emotional intelligence psychology facts silent treatment meaning self awareness manipulation psychology healing from disrespect mental health awareness overthinking relationships YouTube shorts psychology ⸻ #Psychology #GuiltyConscience #HumanBehavior #EmotionalIntelligence #RelationshipAdvice #Accountability #SelfAwareness #HealingJourney #ToxicBehavior #Mindset #Overthinking #MentalHealth #PersonalGrowth #Avoidance #Shorts
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An Avoidant friend and BF did this to me once.
No, actually & factually, this isn’t TRUE for everyone! This isn’t TRUE, every time. It is NOT GASLIGHTING, every time or even more than 5% of the time! Not everyone is a Narcissist Personality, a Sociopath, or Borderline Personality or worse. Effectively, Psychology is a SCIENCE based upon trials & measurements such as Correlations (51%+) & Causations (95.% -100%). Thusly, Generalizations don’t apply at all. If it’s about Human Behavior, we use Correlations at 51% minimum, in causes or effects. Thusly, 51% of the time those who “go dark” and avoid any one or any reactions or situations; or even their own or another’s feelings, thoughts, known facts or consequences… are merely pulling back (conscious or not) to think & ultimately feel better or feel themselves, again: “Licking their own wounds”, rather than talking-out problems (initially) is a normal human and often animal self-defense “mechanism”. It is not “GASLIGHTING” not intentionally or effectively. Once normalized many people return to “ talk it out” or they might go to a Therapist or Doctor/ Psychologist or even a Psychiatrist, if medications or treatments are required/recommended: EX. An antidepressant or anti-anxiety medication or treatment protocol. If not, it’s up to those involved to work out their differences and change course, together or in agreement; or leave the relationship and change course. Communication is a two-way street. Initially one or the other or both might want to take a time out to Think & Feel without exacerbation or more “explanations” from The Other, especially if The Other is also busy “Licking his or her wounds!” Try this definition/ explanation: Gaslighting is intentional! Yet, Self-Defense of the Human Ego, isn’t intentional, it’s restorative or insightful or incentive to take more reconstructive action(s).
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It’s both ways
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They avoid I tried, I walk away. I show up, get put in an awkward situation, I leave. I protect myself and others by removing myself from iffy situations, especially when I have respect for myself and innocent people that are around.
Good. Keep walking and dont let the door hit you on your way OUT.❤
So true
So first people avoid someone because they are getting bullied. Now people avoid you because they are the ones bullying.🤦♀️
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Let them stay away good 👍 God 1st
Nothing to say.... just its reality of life good and bad chapters of life...my allha make that time easy and not painful for us .... good one for both of persons we both belive in Your kidness
So the guy with this style he’s the one who caused all the problems? Why? If I love someone I would cheer and wish the best for them. What makes them happy would make me happy too. Must be a bad person
Life isn't that simple. Sometimes we just remove ourselves from people's lives because they simply aren't worthy of our time anymore. That has nothing to do with guilt, it's called self preservation and moving on.
I'd rather accommodate your absence, than allow your disrespect to continue.
Yes - this is certainly one way of looking at it. Thank you.
I'm always accepting apologies!
Let the trash take itself out & move on
It happens to me with my ex. We broke up bcz of his fault and then he was no contacting me instead of apologising. I felt like dying and then I started baby steps of healing me. After many months he today could stand close to me smiling like "hi". Don't try to figure out what are they doing or thinking. Best thing is to be happy yourself
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