In this video, we explore how certain "normal" habits—like being fiercely independent, struggling to identify your feelings, or constantly apologizing—are actually hidden signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN). If you grew up feeling like your emotions were a burden or that you had to solve everything on your own, you aren't alone. Understanding these patterns is the first step toward reclaiming your emotional life. 📘 RECOMMENDED RESOURCE FOR HEALING: If this video resonated with you, I highly recommend reading "Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect" by Dr. Jonice Webb. This book is the gold standard for identifying the "invisible" holes left by neglect and provides a practical roadmap for emotional recovery. 👉 Get the book here: https://amzn.to/4vPufgp (As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. Thank you for supporting the channel!) In this video, you’ll learn: - The definition of Childhood Emotional Neglect and why it’s so hard to identify. - Why "hyper-independence" is often a trauma response rather than a strength. - The connection between childhood neglect and the constant need to over-apologize. - How the "easy child" or "the strong one" dynamic affects your adult relationships. - Practical psychological insights on how to reconnect with your emotions and build self-compassion. If you found this helpful, please subscribe to MindBasics for more deep dives into psychology and self-growth. #Psychology #ChildhoodNeglect #MentalHealth #SelfHealing #MindBasics #ChildhoodNeglect #Psychology #MentalHealth #EmotionalNeglect #TraumaRecovery #CEN #Healing #SelfAwareness #MentalWellness #ChildhoodTrauma
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Turning the door knob before you shut it, open the microwave before it beeps & generally making sure that you are as quiet as possible.
This is me. I feel like I'm not connected to anyone; I am just here to make life easier for others.
Some parents hated being parents
God bless all neglected children, hope you realise it was never yiur fault.
"If you don't stop crying, I'll give you something to cry about" is the worst thing you could ever say to a small child.
It breaks my heart to see myself in all of the comments. But then, it helps knowing that it wasn’t only me
I heard a story of a young girl during WWII who stopped crying because she realized no one was coming to comfort her. I think a lot of us have lived some version of that.
Some of us were disrespected indentured servants.
Help always came with strings attached - I became self sufficient ...
I am proud of myself for finally learning how to ask for help. I am 74.
71 yrs old, a lifelong long journey to recover from childhood trauma. Still learning & recognizing learned behaviors. Goal to be free to be me💜🙏💐🥰
1. Being independent 2. Inability to identify what you feel 3. Compulsion to overexplain or justify your thoughts. Habitual apologizing. 4. Social chameleon 5. Stop trusting your own feelings 6. Receiving care feels like a anomaly. Service based worth trap. 7. You have burried your preferences 8. People pleaser
I deleted the Help button at a very young age. I found out that any attempt to ask for help was either met with a 'No' or it was done reluctantly and thrown in my face at a later date.
I'm 57 years old, and I'm shocked and angry that so much of this video is totally relatable.
I’m great at reading a room! If it’s got people in it I leave.
"What a mature, smart, independent girl, and she's so good with the younger kids!" My "mother" nods proudly..
We got hit and then cried. Then got hit for crying or until we stopped
Many of you mentioned feeling like you've spent a lifetime carrying these weights alone. If you want to dive deeper into the tools for healing, Dr. Jonice Webb’s book 'Running on Empty' is the best place to start. You can find it here: /4vPufgp
I gave up on asking for help when I got sick as an adult. It turns out I was a giver and never expected anything in return so I didnt notice that my friends didnt actually care about me. When I needed help for the first time it was refused. I even had one of them charge me to take me to the hospital for my surgery. Then she immediately left me alone. She didnt visit or even call me. I was desperate so I called her for a ride home. She charged me again. My cat was in bad shape. I asked for a ride to the vet because I couldnt drive. That friend charged me $20 for a one mile ride. I put my cat to sleep and was shattered. After taking me home they demanded another $20. These were people I took good care of over the years. I dont ask anyone for anything. It hurts too much. I grew up in the manner this video suggests. I tried to get past it. The truth is that my view of humanity is accurate. Most people are selfish and callous. Ive found peace in solitude.
Well, this just described my entire life better than any therapist I've ever had. 😞