The Hidden Code That Explains All Human Behavior | Chase Hughes

True 😊

My way to handle conflict was with more violence than the other guy. And 60 years later it still works.

fully agree, my 8 yr old self was on the mark, thankfully, though I had to shed child-like responses and learn adult coping methods.

Bro, at age 8 or 9, I constantly ran away but returned home. I'd stay away more and more each rime until I never returned. It got to where I became the Me against the world, survivor mode, independent one. I refused to tolerate much and became extremely rebellious due to all this. Many people would show fears by avoiding, hiding, crying, continuously asking why, or the likes. But the rest of us, or as least me, would push, shove, stomp all over people, have that GTFO of my way attitude, I'm Number 1 type with the You're Futile! behavior. That struggle is real 😳

I used to enjoy watching other kids playing games during breaks at school. The teachers would come up to me and asked me, why are you sitting here and not playing? My answer would be : I'm ok , I prefer to watch them play. I guess I thought I didn't deserve to have fun, or have friends !!!

As an adult I still have the knee jerk reaction to run away when people rasie their voice or are confrontational, then it reinforces my feeling that I dont like other people and want to live in the woods on my own with a dog because they don't get angry, but I also get really jealous of people when I see them in groups of friends having fun and I'm on my own

Love the vids but the music sounds like a horror movie lol

I Walk alone. Don't be passive go on the offense.

Well, I have an unusual way of dealing with conflict because I am very sensitive, and adrenaline makes me sick, sometimes vomiting sick, bur always shaky, pale, weak, and dizzy. I can't tolerate it, and have been this way for 47 years. I can't aegue, disagree, get exited, get angry, get "a little heated", have an emotionally elevated discussion, ride any kind of rollercoasters or fair rides, watch scary movies, tolerate balloons, or benefit from exposure therapy(found out the hard way, cementing my fear of heights and worsening it severely). I can't deal with the idea of someone being angry with me and possibly wanting to fight me(I get sick for days on this). I have worsening social anxiety, and i vomit when the phone rings sometimes because it startles me and then, adrenaline. But the worst thing is that i don't like to do the things i want to do because i get excited when i do them and it makes me sick. I'll never receive help because my doctor quit and left me a phone number for a new one which she knew i couldn't call, ten years ago. When it comes to conflict, i have either gone to great lengths to avoid it, or swiftly, and violently ended it with far more physicality than was required(I'm 6'3" 300lbs.) then threw up, every time. I get so angry that someone is putting me through this again, that I've been dragged off of someone I was smashing into the ground while puking more than once, and never have I instigated this. It sucks, but i am basically immune to the anger and adrenaline based control techniques(often used by the political right in America), because if they do get me riled up, all i want to do is turn their programs off and calm down so i don't vomit. I can't even turn on Fox news, not that anyone should, but something they're doing sets my adrenaline off when nothing bad or anything really at all is going on on their channel, it just seems to make me produce adrenaline constantly at all tines. Weird. So conflict, no thanks.

Wow! Spot on! Explains several ways I live in a comfort zone. So interesting

I wish I had this advice right before I got married because there were clear signs that I ignored

So what do you do about it.. knowing will help us ..will it stop us doing it subconsciously

No friends at nine and I have no friends today , very bad time being nine had no relationship with my father even though he lived at home very very mixed up kid my mum and dad both worked very hard but father drank , I did get models to build , but didn’t feel safe felt isolated lost my younger brother to suicide last year didn’t see it coming he was the favourite I’m not coping with the loss of my brother it’s broke me yes I do believe not in all cases but childhood trauma can shape who you become If there is no nurture and love encouragement and your called stupid what’s wrong with it that can ruin you in later life

Love to hear your explanations. Thank you

3 months-7 is the most crucial times SHIFTING. Wakes we up plz .👀

"To truly see someone’s character, watch how they treat those they don’t like."

Keep quiet, disassociated, ate a lot of sugar when it was available, had friends until junior high, kept quiet most of the time.

Two dude friends. I earned a bronze at the field day. Then my world exploded.

we were surrounded by children when growing up ❤

Since this seems like an invitation to talk about ourselves, allow me. I feel like I have 2 personalities. My natural self and the one that developed from early experiences. My natural self is to be outgoing, engaging and everybody I meet is a new friend. The personality I learned is quite the opposite.