Childhood emotional neglect is not always obvious. It is not always dramatic, abusive, or visible from the outside. In many cases, it happens quietly — through emotional absence, lack of attunement, and the failure to respond to a child’s emotional needs. In this video, we explore 6 common adult habits that may actually be signs of childhood emotional neglect. These habits can feel like personality traits, but psychology shows they are often survival adaptations formed in emotionally unresponsive environments. In this video, we cover: 1. Why you apologize for things that are not your fault 2. Why you feel guilty when you rest 3. Why you struggle to know what you are feeling 4. Why you over-prepare for everything 5. Why asking for help feels unsafe 6. Why you feel responsible for other people’s emotions If you grew up feeling like your childhood was “fine” but still struggle with self-worth, rest, emotional clarity, boundaries, or hyper-responsibility, this video may help you finally understand why. This video is for people who: - apologize too much - feel guilty resting - struggle to identify emotions - overthink and over-prepare - find it hard to ask for help - feel responsible for everyone else’s feelings - suspect childhood emotional neglect shaped their adult life Topics covered: childhood emotional neglect, emotional neglect in adults, trauma responses, adult habits from childhood trauma, emotional hyperresponsibility, guilt when resting, difficulty identifying feelings, self-sufficiency trauma, nervous system adaptation, healing childhood neglect. #childhoodneglect #psychologyexplained #trauma #traumahealing #unfelt UNFELT is a channel that dives deep into the hidden psychology of the mind — emotional numbness, overthinking, trauma responses, attachment, and the silent battles people never talk about. 🔊 LIKE ➡ SHARE ➡ SUBSCRIBE Disclaimer: This content is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as psychological advice. If you're experiencing mental health concerns, please consult with a qualified mental health professional.
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Needing help showed vulnerability, and that brought on attack.
I see all these patterns in me.I hope I can now heal.
We live in enlightened age! I resemble a person who survived childhood neglect, and I know that my parent's were actually trying as hard as they could. When my parent's were children, it was considered acceptable and even vital to physically punish children, and my parents both endured what was considered normal in there day, but would be criminal abuse today. I can count on one hand the number of times my parents struck me. They were conscious of the damage that physical punishment could do, but they were just too damaged themselves to be able to give the emotional support that their children needed. We were clothed and fed, and I thought it was perfectly normal to live in a house were no one said "I love you" and no one hugged each other. Two of their children cut them off. I was the one that was unable to escape. In many ways I was the parent, I learned to function in ways that didn't hurt them, much less expect emotional support, and although I have resented them, I took care of my father until the end, and my demented mom lives in a room down the hall. Thanks for reading.
“I’m sorry” still the worst habit I have, I apologize for everything. I’ve learned how to say no and to set boundaries without having a meltdown but I still apologize for existing. But I’m working on it.
I had to learn everything myself, which meant, learning the hard way (most of the time). Thanks for the video.
only spritual knowledge can heal evey type of wounds because it empowers you from within it sets you free from any emotional psychological mental tie it gives you strength to forget and forgive. It makes you a strong person who doesn't need anybody to be happy and makes you to have a bigger heart to forgive everyone whoever caused you pain of any type and still live blissfully.
This video wrecked me. I apologize for things i didn't do all the time. I tend to want to fix a problem, but also want to not cause problems. As a kid, i called myself a B+ student; i got lots of A's and several C's, some topics were just difficult for me to learn. My younger brother was straight A's and Running Start (he got his Associate's Degree when he graduated high school). I was told that i would do better next time, when what i was thinking was "i already did the best I could do". I wasn't a "bad" kid, but my family saw me as going down the wrong path. One of my best friends got ear rings up and down his ear when he turned 18, so he was a "bad kid" too. He's a social worker for teens at a hospital, helping kids who had a childhood like his. I'm an accountant because numbers and math was my best subject. To anybody reading this: You'll get through it, I believe in you. It's not your fault.
This is me! EXACTLY! I've had therapy and it has helped a lot! But I'm still working on these "habits".
I often feel bad and jump in to do things for my child whenever they fail or make mistakes. This video helped me realize that those challenges are actually opportunities for them to build resilience and confidence. From now on, I’ll focus on patiently encouraging them to get back up instead of doing everything for them
Childhood emotional neglect is (almost) criminal. The later years effects are heavy!
I was the child with “learning disabilities “ physical handicaps and was “emotionally disturbed “ . Two engineering degrees later and having done things like bicycle across Europe I am still viewed as handicapped. My feelings were ignored and I got lots of criticism and resentment because of extra attention by older siblings. 35 years of sobriety and a good careers and successful marriage I am still the defective one who has taken too much.
Thank you. I identify with all of what you are saying. I wish I knew how to undo it and function better.
I don't have a problem asking for help. I have a problem trusting that someone cares enough to actually help, or at least to help for long. Everyone abandons me on one level or another. Everyone. However, to expect more is probably to be inappropriately needy. Therefore, I mostly have to rely on myself.
Heartbreaking 💔
Yes the video spoke to me directly🤔
Every point described me in some way. I grew up in a home with extreme domestic violence towards my mum by a father who was there but never showed up. Just every evening the house had to be deathly silent when he was home from work and food on the table. So much as a pin dropped and the house would be turned upside down and somebody would cop it. It's only in recent years I've been putting together the pieces of my childhood and realising how I am the way I am thanks to how traumatic it was.
The inability to ask for help struck the most with me. I was literally thinking about that earlier today!No matter how desperately I need help I will never ask. It makes things so much harder than it has to be. It does help a little to have some understanding of why I behave this way. All of the other things apply to me as well. I never, ever rest, always apologize for things. I am glad I watched this, definitely gives me something to think about.
Rest or inactivity, can also be a " give up". Learning as a child to be still and out of sight to avoid notice, rage and negativity. Even as adults your default can be going still, when feeling threatened or worthless.
Welcome to Generation X!
A lot of 80 year old like me will relate to this. Our parents back then were likely disconnected for so many reasons and children's emotions were generally not seen as important. I fact, the mark of good parents was often that they had taught their children not to show emotions at all. Emotions were seen as unacceptable lack of control. People were losing fathers and sons in wars. Being good was being grateful for anything you had.