Most of us were never taught to connect our adult habits to our childhood experiences. But psychology has a lot to say about the quiet, everyday behaviors that trace back to emotional neglect — the kind that leaves no visible marks but shapes everything. In this video, we break down six completely ordinary habits that are actually signs of childhood neglect. No drama, no blame — just honest psychology that might finally make some things click. If any of these hit home, drop a comment. You're probably not alone. signs of childhood neglect psychology explains | childhood emotional neglect | mental health | psychology facts | emotional healing | inner child | attachment theory | self awareness | therapy talk | mental health awareness
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Yep, its all me. The saving grace for me is my Son is a kind, caring person, so I think I did something right raising him to feel loved and accepted.
My mom used to tell me that out of all the 5 kids, I WAS the ONE she thought would give her the most problems. Funny how the golden one so disappointed her. My Dad's favorite cut contact when my parents refused to pay for her expensive wedding. Another sister is now living in a NH because of her mental illnesses and who knows where the hell my drug dealing brother is these days. I was just myself and basically ignored. I got excellent grades in middle school (on the national honor society)But when your achievements are not noticed because you're not the "pretty one" and mom's favorite I no longer felt the need for her validation. In the end I was their unpaid caregiver and my Dad left me everything because I was. I don't talk to anyone in my family. No. I don't want to hear about your family problems so just go away and let me live my life in peace for what ever time I have left.
WOW, that's so me. Everything but reading the room. I get scared when someone offers to help and will refuse before even considering the offer. Need to watch this a couple more times.
Sadly I was very aware of my neglect from my mom and sister who straight up either ignored me, forgot me, and only gave me negative attention when I did get noticed. I was their scapegoat so I can sadly remember many instances. I am high functioning so most people don't realize how dark my mind truly is. And even when I try to say why I am this way, I get "it's in the past, that's not now so time to cheer up". Humans tire me
I recognize every one of the habits in myself. And true to form I am beating myself up for having burdened my children with the same thing.
All is me. I’ve always been an extreme loner and always felt alien to this world. I only feel real peace when I’m alone. I love animals and trees tho. I’m in my 60s now so I don’t think I’ll ever change. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.
Reading room Not accepting help Not trusting calm I used to have all of them but have healed some
I'm accused by my husband of being overly independent. When you've done almost everything by yourself, this seems illogical. Also, when I'm feeling happy/content, I'm also waiting for the other shoe to drop. 🤷♀️
I am 'independent ' because throughout life i was always made to feel that i was a nuisance . People have commented that i 'just get on with it and don't cause drama ' . The fact is i grew up being ignored and emotionally neglected so i learned to be self sufficient .
All of this is me. I was aware of much of this already since waking up to my lifelong abuse and neglect from my family. My mom is a raging narcissist and so are my sisters, including the one who made me her permanent supply. I cut ties and went to therapy a couple years ago after they pushed me too far and I had to wake up to all this. It is still challenging to recognize who the person I am really is and how much was programmed by their behavior toward me. But now that I am aware, I am working on learning as much as possible and understanding how to overcome these challenges so I can enjoy life instead of being wary of the toxicity of broken people around me.
growing up in the 80s I can relate to this
I skipped gym class because I was so uncomfortable with interactive games. Bumping into a classmate during a basketball game seemed rude. Crazy, I know, but true. Headaches and anxiety were my constant companions as a child.
I've learned more about psychology from intelligent postulations and personal responses from youtube than I have from formal studies in psychology. Except for Jung. He's mostly on the ball.
They all hit, but that last one was the KO punch
These traits also happen to us invisible middle children!
All 6 hit for me i didn't realize it until watching this video. Definitely an eye opener for me.
Yessss!!! And unfortunately true for me. It took a lifetime of therapy. Blessings to everyone on this channel 🙏 ❤
Thank you, good clever video. All of them speak to me. All of them are hard to let go even with a lot of knowledge and explanations.
Wow! I am amazed with how accurate this is as a person who identifies with all the behaviors. Thank you for this video
This is me ….. I’m so critical of myself… but would never say any of this to my friends. I’m very independent and feel put out when someone offers help. I automatically feel uneasy when they offer help. I’ve come along way because of help from therapy and lots of self reflection. I would say I was emotionally neglected as a baby and child and teenager, I left to live on my own at 17 and still in High school. I could use help now at 68 … I’m so tried and worn out. Lots of work to still do with my inner lack of worth. Thank you