as a stripper that has dabbled in the world of sugar daddies, you’d be surprised by how often these connections can be made out in the wild. obviously being a stripper put me in a prime position to meet wealthy men seeking out the company of beautiful women but even at a regular nightclub they are there. they’re also at art galleries, coffee shops and hanging around fancy hotels waiting for their next business meeting. if an older wealthy gentleman asks for your number, whether you initiated the conversation first or not then there’s a decent chance they already know the game or would be fine with it once it’s explained to them. even those that have never been in a sugar relationship before might think “well why not?” at that point they know that they’ve got a beautiful woman’s number, they know that they feel a mental connection with them/that they enjoy talking with them, they figure it would be fun to grab dinner together and they have the money to spare.

otherwise you meet them via apps. there’s websites specifically for sugar dating so you set your profile up and start browsing. you can use regular degular dating apps too, just change your age range and include a subtle hint on your profile as to the kind of dynamic that you are looking for. some men are more possessive while others will recommend you to their wealthy friends. a lot of them just enjoy having arm candy and if you’re intelligent/interesting and can keep it classy they will bring you as their date for business type dinners or work events. not only is the money great but the connections you can make are very valuable too!

op, please look into purchasing a tracking/emergency alert necklace for your own safety, you can even buy custom ones and these days they make them look cute + discreet. i have one that is set up so that when i trigger the sos mode it sends my location with an sos message to my partner and my best friend. the one i have also allows you to alert and send your location to emergency services. i chose that one because i wanted to have the option to NOT call the cops since i don’t want the police showing up to the stripclub, i don’t want to risk getting fired. however it still makes me feel safer at work because if a psycho customer were to try to pull me under the table to SA me in the vip room (something that has happened to another girl at my old club) i would be able to press the button and my partner could call the club and have the security staff come running. it’s a hell of a lot better thn having nothing! in the meantime make sure your phones SOS mode is set up and if it’s already set up then make sure it’s set up properly + make sure you know how to activate it in an emergency. i have mine set up so that it will activate after i press the side button rapidly 5 times in a row. from there it will begin a countdown until your emergency alerts and location are sent out to your chosen contacts and emergency services.

Sex work is work and it's a wide spectrum from dirty hotlines to BDSM.

There is demand for what you do because it's human. People need connexion, not just sex. What you do is not only fair, it's also good for these old men to spend time with a young woman, to vent, to remember how it was to be your age, to listen to your side of the story.

Your parents were raised with a lot of shame cast upon themselves, and it's often about things that are human. The same way you enforce your boundaries with your clients, you have to enforce boundaries with your parents, cause their shame DOES NOT belong to you!

Congratulations! You are doing great. Nobody needs to know. What your parents don’t know won’t hurt them.

Obviously you’re smart and attractive and a joy to have conversations with or those men wouldn’t pay. I feel bad for them but not for you. You’re sticking to your morals and using your natural gifts to get income for college.

I’m a parent of 2 girls. One out of college and the other about to start. As long as they aren’t on a stripper pole or doing anything immoral or illegal, that’s their choice. I just would not want to know about their dates.

I’m sorry. I may be your parent’s age or older 62f. I like that you have boundaries and stick to them. That is always your decision. I think there’s nothing wrong with keeping a lonely man, whatever the situation is company. It’s your life and your boundaries just don’t let any man try to force their desires on you if it’s not reciprocated. Be careful, be happy and make sure it’s something you won’t regret when you’re older. For your sake and nobody’ else’s. It’s your life. We all do things our parents would be aghast about.

Be careful and be safe. As a professional, I know of 3 other contemporaries that did this in their early 20’s and confided in me. I don’t judge them, but I did ask that they let me know if they ever feel uncomfortable and where they were.

They too never did any SW. As a guy who was suddenly single in my mid 30’s several years ago I can attest that sometimes established men just want the company of a woman without the expectation of “intimacy.” I had a 2-3 year period where I didn’t want a relationship or even sex, I just wanted a woman to hold on lonely nights.

I just didn’t have the money or mindset to be a sugar daddy. Thankfully those days are gone and I’m happy and in a great relationship. But as I’ve aged, while I was the first, I’ve seen many other friends soon find themselves alone and wanting a woman’s presence without the pressure of performance. Please be safe. Find one friend you can genuinely trust, and let them know when and where you are.

Just be careful about your safety, honey. You would be shocked by how many women (and men) do this. It’s very easy for people to be judgemental, especially straight men, but here’s the thing: it’s nobody’s business.

You never have to tell your family or anyone else. It’s 2025 and people have been doing exactly what you are since the dawn of time and most people who are shocked by it aren’t paying attention to the world around them. College is 4-8(ish) years of your life. You’re not defined by a blip in time where men helped fund your education in exchange for something as banal and timid as company. Don’t sweat it, but be safe.

No voy a entrar en si yo como madre me sentiría o no orgullosa, aunque creo que todos sabemos la respuesta a eso... Pero sí te digo que es bastante peligroso que no lo sepan, porque aunque tú te sientas "segura" y te "respalde" un contrato, no deja de ser una forma de prostitución. Estás vendiendo tu cuerpo y tiempo, quizás no sexualmente, pero sí lo vendes al fin y al cabo de otra manera. Y no conoces a esos hombres, cualquiera puede echarte algo en cualquier bebida, forzarte estando consciente o inconsciente a ya sabemos qué clase de cosas, o a saber qué otras barbaridades podrían hacerte... Ten cuidado, por favor. Y no digas que estás segura de eso porque nadie lo está, muchas veces son incluso personas conocidas o que de normal vemos aparentemente buenas y fiables... Yo es que no creo que ninguna persona mentalmente estable se meta en esa industria. Ten cuidado.