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🤞 Feeling Hopeful • 2 days, 7 hours ago
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I’m starting to realize that I’m a really needy person when it comes to love.
People call it “clingy” or “attention seeking,” but honestly, I just want to feel wanted. I crave connection. I want to be someone’s person, the one they actually think about during the day.

Today I met this girl, and something about her hit me right in the chest. She’s funny, easy to talk to, and she actually said she likes needy guys. That alone blew my mind because every girl I’ve ever dated has hated that about me.

She said she likes taking care of her boyfriend babying him, loving him hard, being a little controlling and I swear it sounded like everything I’ve ever wanted to hear.

She just got out of a relationship, though. She said she isn’t open to dating right now, but I can’t help it. I already like her. She said her boyfriend was done with her, that she’s alone now, and my brain instantly went, maybe this is my chance. I know it sounds wrong, but I want her. I want her to like me. I want her to be the one who doesn’t see my clinginess as a flaw.

When she told me what her ex was like, we honestly sounded so similar same kind of vibe, same interests. He even sounded like this perfect, put-together guy, but I couldn’t stop thinking, I can be better. Not better as in competing, but better for her. I want to show her I’d love her in the ways he couldn’t.

My ex used to call me crazy because I wanted to talk all the time, see her, know what she was doing, spend every moment together. I just wanted closeness. I didn’t think that made me bad. I thought that’s what love was supposed to feel like wanting someone so much you want to be part of their world.

But every girl before has found that overwhelming. Until now. This girl says she loves that kind of connection. She says she’s “crazy” too. She says she likes control. And weirdly, I like that about her. I want her to have that kind of hold over me. It’s not even about power it’s about being chosen. About feeling wanted.

Maybe it’s messed up. Maybe I’m just desperate for the kind of love that looks a little too intense from the outside. But I don’t care. I’ve been starving for affection for so long that finding someone who actually wants to love me the way I want to love feels like a miracle.

I don’t know where this will go, but I can’t stop hoping she’ll see me the way I already see her —as someone who finally gets it.
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Comments (3)

  • M
    As someone who’s been called “too much” before, I really understand this. There’s nothing wrong with needing love and attention. You just have to be careful when someone says they like control make sure it’s nurturing, not manipulative.
  • M
    Reading this made me realize how lonely some of us really are beneath all the humor and confidence. You’re brave for admitting you’re clingy most people hide it. Don’t lose that vulnerability, it’s what makes you lovable.
  • A
    I don’t think you’re a freak at all. I think you’re someone who wants to be seen, touched, and reassured someone who wants warmth in a world that keeps telling people to be cold. Don’t apologize for wanting love that feels real.