“You Are Wrong” Mental Health, Family & Perspective | Sainthavi's Podcast This episode is about perspective not right vs wrong. Recently, we shared a video addressing someone who was emotionally overwhelmed and needed a safe space to vent. Based on the limited information shared at that moment, we responded with care and practicality. Later, a viewer respectfully disagreed and shared her perspective that when someone is experiencing emotional distress thoughts, they should open up to their parents or siblings, and that life is about caring and sharing. That disagreement matters. Because 9 out of 10 times, when we respond to someone’s story, we are responding only to the input given to us not the full picture. After the video, the person involved reached out privately and shared more details: She has two children She was going through a difficult phase She needed a place to vent, not advice She is now working on healthy distractions and coping mechanisms That context changes everything. This episode is not about blaming anyone. It is about understanding that: 👉 What feels right for one person may not be right for another 👉 Perspective changes based on experience, timing, and emotional state 👉 Mental health conversations cannot be one-size-fits-all Even within families, perspectives differ. What feels right to a mother may feel different to a daughter. What feels right to one individual may not feel right to another. And that doesn’t make anyone wrong. We also discuss how short clips or reels taken from longer videos can sometimes shift focus away from the original intent. A small 30–60 second portion can be misunderstood when the full context is missing. This episode covers: ✔️ Mental health conversations and sensitivity ✔️ Parent–child perspective differences ✔️ Respectful disagreement without attacking ✔️ Why “Right for you ≠ Right for all” ✔️ How context changes meaning ✔️ Why listening matters more than proving a point This is not a debate episode. This is not about proving who is right. This is about learning to say: “I see your perspective and this is mine.” Let’s create space for respectful conversations, especially around mental health. 💬 Share your thoughts kindly. ❤️ Listen without judgment. 🧠 Understand before reacting. Follow me on social media Whatsapp Message Only - +91 98401 40798 Youtube - https://youtube.com/sainthaviskitchen Instagram - https://instagram.com/sainthaviskitchen Facebook - https://facebook.com/sainthaviskitchen Twitter - https://twitter.com/sainthavisktchn https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJFL0nIQEg6fHVnYyU1zlzg #YouAreWrong #MentalHealthMatters #PerspectiveMatters #RightForYouNotForAll #RespectfulConversation #MentalHealthAwareness #FamilyPerspective #ParentChildTalk #EmpathyFirst #ListenWithoutJudging #SainthavisPodcast
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Perspective changes everything. What feels right for one person may not feel right for another especially in mental health conversations. Let’s discuss with empathy, not judgment ❤
Great discussion as always! I have a different perspective about the parent who spoke to their adult child in a hurtful manner. Without going into too many details, this happened to me as well. In my case, my dad didn’t compare me with my sister but said something very hurtful about me even though I did absolutely nothing wrong. My mom also joined him in criticizing me. It was even more devastating because I overheard it accidentally. I was visiting my parents at that time, but didn’t confront them. I quietly returned home to the US. When I got a chance to speak to them over the phone again, I expressed that I was extremely hurt at what had happened. I was calm, composed & dignified. I did not yell, scream, cry, accuse or blame. I just stated what I had heard. My mom said she didn’t remember saying anything. My dad was very honest. He said he didn’t remember saying anything but didn’t deny it & said it’s possible he may have said all that I had heard him say. He apologized profusely for hurting me & asked me not to keep any hurt in my heart & to let it go. I have forgiven my parents but it’s hard to forget what happened. But I’m glad I communicated my feelings to them, because I know I would have regretted not doing so forever. I believe that honest communication, especially among close family members is very important especially in a situation like this. It can make or break relationships.
Really u do an awesome job in helping people with ur genuine perspective, which is much needed for many people here in US where they are helpless in sharing their confused thoughts , people in India also sometimes couldn’t understand, people around here also not that genuine sometimes.. ur podcast really helps in seeing things with different perspective and understand reality.. keep going❤
Hi Sain Akka Hope you and your family are doing well. If you're seeing this comment, please help me out. Myself and husband 5 years ah canada la irukom. Everything is going very well akka. My husband 5 years ah UK la work pananga 5 years ah USA la irukanga. He is working in IT field. 5 years ago enagaluku marriage aachu and it’s an arrange marriage. Enga marriage life romba nalla iruku akka. We have a 2 year old baby girl. En husband enaiyum baby um romba nalla paathukuranga. He is a gem. Inga dha baby delivery panunom no one came from India during oru delivery my husband took care of everything. And when baby is 6 months we went to india and show baby to our family members. But konjam naala enaku oru matter ena disturb aagudhu. En husband after finishing his college he got place in top mnc company and moved USA. Avanga dha avanga education loan , family loan ela loans um adachanga. Avaruku 1 elder sister and one younger sister avangaluku marriage pani vachanga, jewel potadhu avanga marriage expenses elam en husband dha paathanga. My MIL and FIL both are government employees and earned very well. En husband enga marriage kuda avanga dha ella expenses pananaga my family also shared, Chennai la veedu vaangunga parents irukarudhukaga, parents medical expenses ellame ipo vara panitu irukanga. We took bank loans for all this and enga husband salary la elamae pananga. But after our baby born avanga velila money saelavu panradhu kammi panitu loans adaikuradha paathutu irukanga and savings panitu irukom. IPO ena MIL and SIL over ah possessive ah irukanga avanga brother mela(my husband mela). They are not talking to me or my baby. Epo call panalum en husband kita dha pesuvanga. Nane initiate panalum avanga avan paiyan kita matum dha pesuvanga. Enkitaiyo avanga grand daughter kitaiyo pesama matanga. We both felt alone… apdiye pesunalum one or two words dha pesuvanga. Na nalla paduruchukuen IT field dha work panren ipo break eduthuruken. 2 month ah pesave la avanga paiyan kita matum dha pesuvanga after he went to office. Edhachu na thappu panna direct ah solanum. En 2 year baby ena pananga? Andha baby kita kuda pesa matanga adhu ena romba hurt panudhu. Endha family problem um ila sain akka en husband enaiyum baby romba nalla paathukuranga avanga adhula posseive ah irukanga. Marriage before en husband avanga sisters avanga pasanga avanga parents ku dha selavu panga ipovun panranga but he reduced it. En husband avanga family ah nalla paathukutanga akka, aana avanga family members oru help kuda pana maatanga. Indirect ah ena affect panudhu. They just need their son not his wife or his baby. They can help my husband loans financially not fully akka just en husband avanga family kaga vanguna loans pathi kaekalam they can help right? Please address this. MIL and SIL possessive to their son or brother after marriage. They are thinking my husband as an ATM machine.
It's good that you speak about mental health ... Our society needs more of this content... Please do more on these concepts
Hi Akka , I have been listening to you for past year or two and just love all the content you make. I live in Dallas and have been here in US for 16 years and have a 13 yr old boy. Most of the topics are very very relatable as we all have faced all those problems some time over the years. I wish I lived near you and could converse with you on all topics😊 most of us with slight confusion don’t need therapies but ppl like you to just say it’s normal we all go through this and it’s normal. Lots of love to you and aunty!!!
Continue the good work
U both r doing excellent job👏👌🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 n Vinodh too
I'm sorry this is off topic, your Mom looks really pretty in that saree😊. Liked how well put together she is.
Hi akka .pls speak about single child…avanga life pathi like what they are all facing issue from family side parents side and also society …I am also single child and also facing lot in my life ..pls if you have time speak about the topic..why I am asking means you are also single child and what are the issue going through from your life and how to overcome it…
I believe you have a capacity to become a professional counsellor. I wish you get the proper qualification and licence. Now a days it is a long que to get an appointment from a counsellor.
thank you Sainthavi. Clannish behavior is real
Aunty looks too cute in this saree.
Hi Sainthavi and family! I really relate to what you said. I often see this with older folks who depend on their children and find it hard to give them credit, maybe because of their own insecurities or past disagreements. Most families don't have the open communication you all share, which can lead to misunderstandings and carry emotional baggage. Using guilt or blame as tools feels like a way to protect their insecurities. As your mom mentioned, not giving too much importance to their statements can really help maintain our peace of mind. It's also true that sometimes we compare our kindness to others who may not be as kind to their parents but still have their family’s admiration. We all have moments when we find it difficult to show kindness — the duration of those moments can vary. A messy brain is hard to manage. 🙃 By the way, it's really lovely to see your bond and mutual respect! Stay blessed! ❤
I love you Sainthavi. My mom/all our moms are always right. Rarely we know that immediately- Mostly we know that many years later. Often, if we can work on that particular shortcoming- we will improve in life for sure. Mom knows us better than we know ourselves. Usually they don’t say it nicely- but they say it truthfully. Same goes for a good friend and a good husband. But human mind always takes comfort in sweet lies over bitter truths!!❤
This discussion helps for women or families ✨👍🏼 Thank you Sainthavi and mom 🙏🏼🪴🪷❄️🌻🌹😊
and , thank you for taking my comment and discussing that. Feel valued 😊
Feels like our voice heard....
Well said 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🪴
Very nice discussion. As i mentioned in your earlier videos, your video is my daily company.