If you like this episode you should also check our latest talk with Stephan Speaks! Watch it here 👉 https://youtu.be/XtzbgvtsApE Today, I sit down with Stephan Labossiere to talk about breakups and relationship building. We exchange thoughts on the importance of emotional maturity and how it greatly helps couples resolve misunderstandings, the reasons most relationships are dubbed challenging and difficult, understanding what a love cycle is and how emotionally damaging it is, and healing your trauma and working on yourself first are the first steps to attracting the right partner. Stephan Labossiere a.k.a Stephan Speaks is a man on a mission, and that mission is to make relationships happier and more fulfilling. As a certified relationship coach, a speaker and author, Stephan seizes every opportunity to help both men and women overcome the challenges that hinder their relationships. Some of his most popular books are Love After Heartbreak, He's Lying Sis: Uncover the Truth Behind His Words and Actions, and The Man God Has For You: 7 Traits To Help You Determine Your Life Partner. You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:40 What are the signs that someone deeply loves you? 04:01 Both partners need to be emotionally ready to grow love 08:56 Compatibility is about two people co-existing in harmony 13:10 How do you differentiate connection and chemistry, and what stage are you in? 16:51 Is anything that is not sustainable not healthy for any relationship? 21:15 Allowing children to discover themselves and their interests helps them become more self-aware 24:16 Why are most relationships difficult and become a continuous struggle? 29:13 The love advice you’ve probably heard but shouldn’t practice 34:07 Why do you need to nurture both of your masculine and feminine energy? 43:23 This is how you test the compatibility you have with your partner 46:42 Learn about the unhealthy love cycle that often causes relationships to fail 55:14 Aim to become the best you and you start to attract the right person 58:16 Focus on the healing from everything that you’ve been through, not just from your breakup 01:05:42 Stephan on Final Five
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"Being your best self for the wrong person will bring out the worst version of you. "
“The safe choice is usually the wrong choice.” That was a hard lesson to learn
It’s so refreshing to see two men who can talk about feelings and vulnerabilities. We need more of this in this world.
It’s true, as women we know. If we would honour our inner voice we would have saved ourselves a lot of heartache, tragedy and pain
When a man truly loves you, there' no space to second guess. He will make sacrifices, be honest and straightforward, listen and act in ways that dictate so.
“Being your best for the wrong person”. That resonates.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not angered, it keep no record of wrongs. LOVE does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always preserves. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
Always be careful of what you say to her when you’re arguing. You can say you’re sorry, they can say they forgive you, but they CAN’t forget, & emotional pain creates deep resentment.
Realized we were both wasting our time. Ended it so now I can fully focus on my self before I give myself to anyone else. Singleness is a super power when used properly.
“Walking around unhealed is like walking around with broken glasses. You can’t see straight ” ❤❤❤❤ THATS A WORD RIGHT THERE
"You're not really missing the person you are missing the feeling." So true ❤
I think it shows a man really loves you if he feels safe enough to be vulnerable with you. I can't speak for other women, but that's how I feel.
My husband says he knew he loved me the first time he saw me smile. We definitely had fast love, hung out one time and didn't stop. It's still going strong ❤
“Walking around unhealed is like walking around with broken glasses. Can’t see straight no matter how hard you try!” Wow did I need to hear this!!
I’ve been in a long relationship with a man who never held my hand, never showed love, never took pictures with me and I stupidly believed he just wasn’t an affectionate person. We just broke up last week and he said he just never “felt that way” about me. I realize I was constantly giving love and got absolutely nothing back, I’m sure it was convenient because I did every single thing for him. I deserve better, not whatever that was.
For me, two indicators that a man loves me are peace and protection. Is he your light or your darkness? Does he cover you or abandon you? Those two things are unmistakable and speak volumes.
When I got divorced from my husband I thought it was the end for us.. we both moved on and started dating other people and did therapy on our own and became great friends because we had 3 kids together .. we fell in love again 4 years later.. it was a nice surprise and came out of no where
"If your partner thinks you're never going to walk away from them no matter what they do. You've lost. We have to get to a place where we realize that as long as we show up the way we're supposed to show up for each other, we've got each other's back. But neither of us will tolerate an unhealthy relationship and someone that blatantly does not want to work on making this better" That part!
Showing up for my reality check. Being alone is better than being in an unhealthy relationship for the wrong reasons.