Esther Perel: Cheating, Codependency, & Connection

Alex bringing Ester on is the best thing she could’ve done for her podcast on relationships! All of her interviews always have the same perspective on men and relationships which is very driven by the American ideology which revolves around the self. But it’s interesting to see Esters perspective who I’m assuming is French. And her perspective is truly about the WE instead of ME which we need more of!! Post pandemic it’s been a pattern that people are so easy to let go of relationships that don’t serve them but that inherently unhuman because as humans we know everything is not that black and white. It’s refreshing to hear how we can mend broken relationships instead of labeling them as toxic & letting go of them.

The way I GASPED! Esther Perel is a treasure!

Esther is a prophet. She summarized 18 months of couples therapy into 1 hour. 🙌

"Do you put as much emphasis on who you want to be than who you want to find?" I wonder the same when I hear complaints from the same individuals all the time.

NO F****** WAY, Esther Perel, LETS GO!

One of the best conversations on Call Her Daddy! Thank you, Alex.

Something that I feel like I had to learn the hard way in my 30s is that to find a good partner is an investment. And that you have to accept that it’s gonna take time because the odds of it just being one of your first few dates isn’t necessarily realistic. And I think when you want to find that person so badly that’s when you’re willing to settle for things that end up biting you in the butt later. Once I accepted that you’re gonna have to be OK with it taking a lot of time and a lot of dates and trial and error. It made me less willing to just choose someone because I wanted to be with someone.

I love Esther 😍😍

I love the way Esther masterfully and respectfully cuts through the subjective, one-sided and oft self-involved interpretation of the dating / relationship experience to consider the duality, complementarity and meaning-making necessary for compromise and conflict resolution. She is a true genius, a complex thinker and an international treasure. Brava.

Cheating rarely comes from nowhere, it often starts with the hollow that grows when connection dies. I saw this in my own relationship. The distance, the loneliness, the feeling of being unseen, it created a vulnerability I didn't even recognize until it was too late. Book called "Hollow Intimacy" helped me understand that hollow and heal it before it destroyed us. Essential read.

I see Esther Perel, I click!! 🙏

Being of a previous generation, I came to this episode of Call Me Daddy with the expectation that Alex would not do a good job with having Ester on her show. I was completely wrong. Alex is so articulate and asked good questions and listened. Amazing. It’s heartening to me that such a clear minded young person is in the podcast space.

I love the point about how betrayal could be redefined when referencing how much women generally tend to share about their relationships with other female friends, as opposed to men sharing with their male friends. Culturally, men are discouraged from sharing their feelings with other men, but if men share the intimate details of their relationships with female friends, we often frame this as an emotional affair. I think there is such an interesting conversation to be had here. Listening to one podcast with Esther Perel always results in hours of rich conversation among friends. Thank you for the episode.

"wrinkles are a sign of experience" - I will try to remember it😂 08:37

MORE OF THIS PLEASE

just looking for honest people at this point, forget about perfection....

Oh wowwwwwww ! Thx girls

14:49 I met my husband while on a girls trip and he was on a guys trip, it was so natural and low stakes and made an amazing foundation for a relationship!

Please have Esther back again! It was a conversation between you both that was so relaxed but informative. I feel like you both compliment each other greatly!

wow that's the best episode of a podcast that I ever heard