In a talk about understanding and practicing the art of healthy relationships, Katie Hood reveals the five signs you might be in an unhealthy relationship -- with a romantic partner, a friend, a family member -- and shares the things you can do every day to love with respect, kindness and joy. "While love is an instinct and an emotion, the ability to love better is a skill we can all build and improve on over time," she says. Get TED Talks recommended just for you! Learn more at https://www.ted.com/signup. The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You're welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know. For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request here: https://media-requests.ted.com/ Follow TED on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/TEDTalks Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: https://www.youtube.com/TED
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it's important to look for these signs not just in the other person but also in yourself.
4:20 "It's important to remember that it's not how a relationship starts that matters, it's how it evolves."
1. Open Communication 2. Mutual Respect 3. Kindness 4. Patience we can practice all of these things
I'm want to keep rewatching this video every couple of months to remind myself of my bad traits. I will grow so I dont hurt anyone anymore.
They should teach this in schools.
I ve figured it out, you can't have an unhealthy relationship if you don't have any.
Im glad you made this video. You showed me that Im becoming abusive! Hard pill to swallow
we also need to talk about being ignored as a part of abuse
5 markers of Unhealthy love 1. Intensity 3:20 2. Isolation 4:45 3. Extreme jealousy 6:07 4. Belittling 7:04 5. Volatility 8:04
Finally. People are realizing that love is a skill we can all learn !!!
Stop cheating on people while y'all are at it
A thing I learned is ''if you feel that something just isn't right, it probably isn't.'' And if you feel anxious because of *someone*, it isn't right for you, no matter how much you love the person. The highs are not worth the downs, and as time passes, there are less and less highs and only deeper downs. You're just going to end up stuck in a vicious cycle of feeling depressed and unworthy.
I love this !! my boyfriend and I used to have all of these problems and instead of giving up, we talked about everything and decided to work through it together. it’s not easy or quick, but with a lot of forgiveness we’re both getting better for each other. we are doing so great now and I couldn’t be happier that we didn’t give up !!
*_A healthy and deep love gives you strength. Unhealthy love weakens you. Thanks TED, videos like these have been an inspiration to start my own personal development channel <3_*
Healthy love doesn’t even really feel like love it just feels like two (or more) people that know what they’re doing in live, and don’t have much problems or things to complain about so they are just chilling in a calm and open space and it feels like they are together by choice rather than being stuck together. Unhealthy love has that needy clingy, intense, passionate, roller coaster, emotional ups and downs type of energy that makes u feel like u need that person and your life will go into flames without them.
My ex felt overwhelmed and suffocated. My issue was definitely jealousy/ possessiveness. It wasn’t extreme but it was definitely there. I’m hoping I never make the same mistakes again and ruin another amazing relationship.
Today I learned - I have habits that is promoting unhealthy love. Something that didn’t seem obvious before but obvious now. Im sorry Madeline
Intensity Isolation Extreme jealousy Belittling Volatility
I can feel the anxiety in her voice... it is palpable... Yet, she got up there and did a phenomenal job!! The message is profound, and something not easy for me to watch. I have always been the "I love you" guy, but my actions often did not back up my words. Now, I am 40 and essentially all alone on this spinning ball of cosmic dust. Sorry for the rant.
Wow my ex hit all 5 markers. Im so grateful it ended finally