Controlling relationships #shorts

it's a grooming tactic to make you a servant to them.

Another way to test is try to say no to something they want from you.

There can be a very thin line between protective shelter and a confining prison.

What the heck!! This is so well said Jay. Wow! I had to play it over and over to absorb it.🙏 for such wisdom that you have.

Oh So True!!! Watch out for those people who tell you they care about you---but their actions say something else.

Control caring is making an individual dependent on you, emotionally, financially in whatever aspect it may be.Control care restricts one’s growth and potential. True care revolves around your betterment independently. “Give a man fish, you’ve fed him once, teach a man how to catch a fish, you’ve fed him everyday”. These people would rather give you one fish at a time so that they feel needed and that’s how they derive their self worth which is quite sad and a miserable way to live. Just be kind to them and don’t take it personally and encourage positive behaviour.

Some parents do this to their children and call it tough love, which they have hugely mistaken (intentionally or not).

Be it in a family dynamic, friendship, or workplace.. be cautious and observe unusual patterns in people. Kindness can sometimes be a door for manipulative people to perform and operate an agenda to groom certain individuals to prevent them from seeing their potential and importance. Be careful who u TRUST . Don't be so naive. Plan your escape . 😊

The way to tell is to say no and see what happens

This is so simply said, I wish I knew this before. So much of my husband’s behavior I ignored even if I felt uncomfortable or upset. Because anytime I voiced my concerns my family and and friends just said it’s because he loves you and cares about you. And I was overreacting.

This man and his wife have the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen 👁️👁️

To be honest I think most people do this without even knowing it.

Great point! I’ve seen this happen many times people pretend to care/love for you until they get you to the place of vulnerability that they want you.

So true. My ex’s favorite line for me when I would try to do things on my own would be “you can trust me and depend on me to help you. I love you and am always looking for your best interests.” Mind blowing looking at it from the outside now 🤯

Yep, just like the fake concern or compassion at one's place of work. Boss/Manager may care but what they really care about is you showing up for your work and performing your duties.

The only people who "care" about me have only ever tried to control me. I have absolutely no one it's incredibly lonely and depressing

Love you Jay. The amount of wisdom in your soul is beautiful. I hope we can all become the values you share

I felt this in my first marriage. I was unaware and the “care” it was truly control. It only got worse over time.

After the age of 18, it’s called communication and setting boundary’s.

dis is where people confuse with care n control.they think they r taking care of us but actually they want to control us.