when your friend has never had a healthy relationship😭: #shorts

This is exactly how it feels like when you are at your friend's house, and you don't have the courage to say that you are hungry to their parents. 😢

I grew up very poor, in the 1980s/1990s. Once I was at a friend's house and her mom offered to wash my socks, they were stiff from wearing them too much and full of holes. They were my only pair of socks. A while later, she comes back with a pack of socks because she "lost" mine 😢 first act of kindness I had ever received. I went home and shared the pack with my 3 other siblings. Edited Knowledge for the ignorant unwashed and well-used socks will become somewhat stiff over time I lived/live in one of the poorest counties in California. My whole life 20% of my community has lived below the poverty line.

“will you mind if i use your cats litter box?”

This is why hospitality is so important. You have to OFFER things to your guests so they don’t have to ask or go without

i FELT the panic rising when you said "i'll have my dad get the air mattress out of the attic" lmfao

the panic when they say they’ll have their parents do something for you is so real 😭 pleaaase i don’t want to bother them 😫

I once had a friend over who awkwardly stayed in the bathroom for ten minutes after showering because we'd forgotten to show him where the towels were and he thought he had to just wait till he dried off. Mum was horrified once she realized

The “I’m sorry” for sleeping on the floor. I relate to this toooo much 😂

Once had a friend in highschool who did stuff like this,one time he left 98 cents in the pantry for some beans he took. Next morning my parents where like wtf why is there 98 cents in here he explained and they started busting out laughing, forced him to take his money back and said he could eat whatever, when ever while he was over at our place, I'll never forget his tears. Made me realize I had it pretty darn good growing up.

I'm 53 and still feel like I don't deserve good things . That childhood shit don't quit

It's hard when you start finding out that nothing you've experienced is normal, and your behavior like being over apologetic, and being scared to ask others to do stuff for you isn't normal either. And especially "Wait, my negative emotions are allowed?" Really hits every time. I feel so bad that a lot of people relate to that.

it sucks being that friend cause you’re so aware of how awkward you are, yet you don’t know what else to do or say or expect, so you’re just like. conditioned to be that way LMAO

Reconnected with the "estranged aunt" of the family after my parents passed and found she actually has more sense than the rest of my family. We meet up every week for breakfast and she actually gives a damn about us. Its wonderful, and something I'd forgotten

Reminder: not just poor and struggling homes create children like this

Had a friend growing up who would always come over after school and my mom always had another plate at dinner ready for him, and if he couldn't stay, would immediately pack some up for him and his little sister at home. I remember asking my mom why she would always send the food with him even when he was going home for dinner; she seemed to just *know* that he wasn't getting enough food at home. Sure enough several years later, buddy confides to me that all that time his mom and step dad barely ever had food at home. Used most of their cash on alcohol, cigarettes, and fast food. Til this day he's a sucker for curried foods now lol.

i was everyone's homeless teenaged friend.. no one really knew and always told me I was the best guest ever.. in truth i was so scared of doing anything wrong or being "needy" because if my own biological family didn't want me why would i believe anyone else did.. I definitely felt this..

When I went on vacation with my friend and her mom asked me if I was hungry at the fast-food place I said no and she said “I knew you were gonna say no but I’m gonna get you food because I know you’re hungry” 🥺 sucks growing up feeling like your needs are inconveniencing others

My both of my sons had friends from trouble homes. I did my best to make them feel that my home was a safe place for them to be at. One of my eldest son's friend moved where he couldn't come by anymore and within a year he hung himself in the garage because he couldn't take it anymore. He just turned 18. 💔😔 The others grew to be wonderful people and when they come to visit me they tell me how the happy times they spent in my home helped them survive. There is a very fine line between tough love and abusive love. I was happy to show them kind love.

The worst is when you would ask your friend to ask their mom a question and they said “MOMMM HE WANTS TO KNOW”

If this ain't me. Growing up in an abusive home can make you a ~pushover~