Continuing Education for LMFT, LCSW, LPC, LMFT. NAADAC and State Accredited Education Provider Dawn-Elise Snipes, PhD, LPC NPI: 1699003533 Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Qualified Clinical Supervisor. She received her PhD in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Florida in 2002. In addition to being a practicing clinician, she has provided training to counselors, social workers, nurses and case managers internationally since 2006 through AllCEUs.com Coping with Guilt After Ending Toxic Relationship #Guilt #ToxicRelationship Counseling #relationshipadvice 📢SUBSCRIBE and click the BELL to get notified when new videos are uploaded. 💲 AllCEUs.com Unlimited CEUs $59 based on these videos Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAE3JJi8tX7gfhZEXCUGd_A/join NOTE: ALL VIDEOS are for educational purposes only and are NOT a replacement for medical advice or counseling from a licensed professional. Anger is a reaction to a threat. Guilt is anger at yourself for something you think you should have done, but didn’t or shouldn’t have done but did. Guilt indicates you did something that threatens your self esteem and/or causes you to fear being judged and rejected. Sometimes it is appropriate to feel guilty because we did do something wrong. Other times we may feel guilty for something that is out of our control When a relationship ends it is almost always painful. We often second-guess ourselves and minimize or deny the problems to try to convince ourselves to go back (and stop the discomfort) Sometimes “known” pain is less terrifying than unknown pain. Guilt is another way we may try to convince ourselves to go back. If something is “all our fault” then maybe we can fix it and stop the pain. Unfortunately, when relationships end, it is often the result of multiple factors, some of which are out of our control. When evaluating what is going on, consider your part, their part, the influence of other people and the circumstances. A healthy, meaningful relationship will bring out the best in you instead of causing distress or bringing out the worst. Video by Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes on integrative behavioral health approaches including counseling techniques and skills for improving mental health and reducing mental illness. AllCEUs provides multimedia counselor education and CEUs for LPCs, LMHCs, LMFTs and LCSWs as well as addiction counselor precertification training and continuing education. Unlimited Counseling CEs amd Social Work CEUs for $59 Specialty Certificates and #MasterClass starting at $89 AllCEUs courses for counselor continuing education are accepted in most states because we are an approved education provider for NAADAC, the States of Florida and Texas Boards of Social Work and Mental Health/Professional Counseling, the California Consortium for Addiction Professionals and Professions, the Australian Counselling Association, CRCC, Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association and more. Dr Dawn Elise Snipes provides training through AllCEUs.com that are helpful for ACA OPD, Counsellor OPD Points, LPC CEUs LMHC CEUs LCPC CEUs LSW CEUs LCSW CEUs LMFT CEUs CRC CEUs LADC CEUs CADC CEUs MAC CEUs MCAP CEUs NCC CEUS LCDC CEUs CPRS CEUs CTRS CEUs and HPCSA ACA NBCC counsellors needing counselling continuing education counseling continuing education ceus for social workers social work ceus addiction counselor training counseling ceus continuing education training, NCMHCE test prep and exam review, addiction counselor training, addiction recovery specialist training, mental health awareness, anxiety relief, addressing abandonment and inescure attachment, learning cognitive behavioral techniques, depression, motivation, mental health awareness, addiction awareness, holistic habits and integrated behavioral health approaches to treatment CEbroker CE broker @cebroker, better help, talk space, seven cups, 7 cups, online counseling, self help IC & RC, IC&RC test prep, IC & RC Exam Review
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This video is so so helpful and clarifying. It addresses ALL the narratives that run through an empaths mind that keep them stuck. Stuck in hope, stuck in not loving yourself, stuck in false narratives, stuck in feeling responsible for a grown adults toxic behavior. People need to listen again and again to these clarifying truths. It doesn’t matter if the partner has ptsd, CPTSD, Narcissism, covert narcissism, or is somewhere on the NPD spectrum or is just selfish. Offer them a great therapist, tell them about EMDR, tell them you are not qualified to help them and that unless these start therapy you cannot participate in the “chaos”any longer.
You mentioned it already but when I look at past relationships I sometimes find myself thinking, "If only I had said things the right way." or "If only I had been more assertive." The truth of the matter is neither of these options would have made any difference. I like where you state something to the effect of it takes two people to make a relationship work. Each contributes the same amount most of the time.
Excellent video, Dr. Snipes! I would love to see one on differentiating between a simply toxic relationship and an outright abusive one. It is a fine line that is *really* hard to see when you are in the middle of it. I think it is really important for people to know when a situation has become potentially dangerous. Thank you so much for putting these resources out here! :)
Thank you for the flower and fence example. This helped me greatly.
Thank you! Such great information. Really what I needed to hear. This validated some of my thoughts concerning the end of a very toxic relationship.
Divine timing... I have been healing from your videos these past weeks..Grateful 🙏
These videos are absolutely amazing! Thanks doc! You are opening up my eyes to my own value.
Thanks so much for this, I ended my relationship with my mom last summer and recently have guilt setting in as I found out she is sick with Covid, and its been 2 weeks for her. I have no idea what her condition is, and feeling lots of guilt. Everything you have said about boundary violations, control and power, and this hits hard, as she is definately BPD/ Narcisstic. Thanks
This was so good! I got so many good journal prompts that I know are going to help me!
Hey… I hardly comment on videos but this one spoke to me. I ended my longest term relationship I have ever had, 2 1/2 years, a month ago… it got unhealthy for the both of us but I can’t help but feel guilty for my part to play. I was addicted to marijuana and relapsed after getting back together with this girl a a year and a half in. Things were going great for two months while I was sober, but my relapse and continued use destroyed the relationship slowly over time… she couldn’t set boundaries despite me asking her to, so I guess that would be her part to play, but when I weigh out her parts to play against mine, I just objectively outweigh her in terms of problematic behaviour…. The guilt of how toxic I was is killing me.
Thank you for a wonderful channel. I am watching and learning so much, and you explain things so perfectly that it finally all makes sense. 🙏🏻
Going through a divorce where there was a lot of control and towards the end lots of emotional, verbal and even teetering towards physical abuse. Husband didn't want a divorce and keeps reminding me that I gave up. Even though I know about the abuse and that he isn't going to change. He keeps reminding me he was changing and he knew the issues and I am going to miss out. 12 years of being together. I teetered back and forth a lot... Just leaning into the divorce now but definitely filled with so much guilt.
Good lord, it's like you were reading my life history. Several, if not all, of these points hit hard. Thank you. This video provides clear analysis and guidance. Can you make a video on dysfunctional relationships among siblings?
I love it!! Do you do private therapy?! I’m looking for someone like you! I like the way you think 💭🌼
Not a word about society shaming people that have a divorce.. specially "religious" people shaming others
Thank you so much for this! I feel like some weight just dropped off my shoulders
I have donated to your channel Doc Snipes because I can attest that you have been a great help to me. I want to thank you so much for helping me thru the videos that you do. Wishing u more happiness
Great wonderful information thank you Doc Snipes! You explain things so clearly and articulately 🙌🏻🌞
thank you for this video god bless you
I’m so sad but it’s for the best but I feel so guilty why?!!!!! Help