What you MUST do to LEAVE an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Girls, I am 60 and have gone through 2 divorces...young ladies, don't waste your years on someone who is a taker...Takers are people who take, your hopes, your self, and your soul...you feel empty and they never give... except to get... remember, this is your life...year in year out, this is your time... VALUABLE TIME because you are valuable...don't waste your time trying to get someone to like and love you...if you have to do that, they are stingy...with themselves and everything thing they own...think smart...learn about yourself and love yourself...your worth it

I broke up with him today. I deserve better. It’s been a rollercoaster. Now the healing begins!

The hardest part of being able leave is that not many abusers are abusive 100% of the time. There are sometimes 70% good, loving times. But 30% really horrible times.

After 23 years a peaceful home is all I want.

Almost 15 years with the wrong man. I knew it from the day i met him that he was probably not right for me, but i was attracted and intrigued. 6 months into it i received the first bit of verbal and emotional abuse, and it began to snowball and became a way of life. I left him the first time 5 years into it, with our 2 year old, and I ended up going back because i had very little to no resources to survive on my own. And then i left again, and came back, and again, and came back. I stayed long enough to finish college and left again, and came back.... and i don’t know what the hell is wrong with me that once i would leave it wouldn’t be long before i felt like i made a mistake, I’d feel guilty, id be manipulated, convinced that we could have so much more together and thinking maybe i didn’t try hard enough. Two kids later and I’m awake to the knowledge that he will never change! He will never grow, he will never be better than what he is. Dominating, controlling, loud, obnoxious, arrogant, demanding, difficult, impatient, judgemental...... and not there for me when I’m sick or hurt. He wants a partner to help with finances and provide sex. But if i need emotional support he can’t be bothered. If I’m sick, it’s all in my head.... if i have a need , I’m crazy!!! I’m sick of it! I’m not needy, I’m very independent, but I’m a human and i need a human connection. This monster isn’t capable of that. All he does is manipulate me into thinking that he’s connecting but what’s he’s really doing is trying to convince me that I’m wrong and that he’s right.

So so hard when there’s a child involved ☹️

Ok....after suffering for about 3 yrs w this abusive person, ,,,I left yesterday...I prepared for yesterday for a year....I found the strenght to leave .😵😿😥 I couldnt live another day...I was dead...I feel like a shredded piece of rag....Im going to heal and become the person I was before he drained my spirit...it was Soooo bad....I have severe anxiety bcuz of this relationship....I left yesterday while he was at work...I literally escaped...when 3:00 pm comes around everyday my anxiety goes thru the roof...because its the time he is on his way home...I knew that at 3:50 he was going to see my car not there and run in to find I left.I BLOCKED him everyway I could ..I was TERRIFIED...Im now staying w a fam member...but I have to park my car two blocks away so he wont drive around to see if Im at my fam house...the aftermath TRAUMA ,,,Im paranoid he is going to pop up...I promised MYSELF N GOD N MY FRIENDS N FAM I WONT GO BACK...I see a therapist...Im getting my own place in Sept...I love myself enough to know that I wasn't growing and this last time he left me BRUISES all over..where they are visible...☹😔 I had two bruises on my neck ..one on each side...he choked me so bad ..I looked in the mirror and I seen all the bruises and they hurt just as bad as the mental n emotional scars...I said...thats it...I have been thru enough of abuse..from childhood..THAT was the last draw......Now I feel ....heartbroken and happy at the same time..😢...I need to heal...I am very spiritual...its God THAT has guided and given me strenght when I was ready to kill MYSELF.....I dont want young girls to think that its normal to get treated this way......its not...We are not THE PROBLEM THEY HAVE THEIR OWN ISSUES...💖 Stay prayed up..keep God 1st..,God Bless

"You can't have a rational conversation with an abusive partner, bc if they recognized they're abusive, they would've done something about it by now" - This really hit home for me. Thank you so much Steph💗

Breaking up is hard to do, but necessary to grow.

We have to treat the narc as they are and not as we would like them to be. The lesson for me was to rediscover my own power. I was never truly a victim. I was a willing participant. My narc was a mirror exposing me to my character flaws such as codependency, low self esteem and poor boundaries to name a few. Narcs are predators that don’t get better. The more time you invest in them they become better predators.

This is exactly what I needed to hear!! I want to move on ... I’ve been in this toxic relationship for 8 years and this video has given me the strength to put a stop to this cycle!

I have had 2 relationships like this. I left both when it became physical. That crossed the line. I am now married to a beautiful man and will be celebrating our silver wedding at Christmas. So yes, you can recover and move on.

I broke it off completely after 3 years of an abusive relationship 3 months ago. It was the best decision of my life, that bad situation made me a better stronger person, I have so much more appreciation for good people. I’m now in the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. I look at the past as a place of reference not a place of residence.

The narcissist expects the relationship to end, right from the first day meeting you. They know you're not going to put up with their abuse and manipulation forever. You will leave or at least take a step back from giving them supply, to the point where they are forced to discard you. They know this is inevitable.

This video literally changed my life. I left my abusive partner and am doing so much better now. Thank you stephanie 💕

This is so hard! I left the abuse 45 days ago. I'm so depressed and constantly think of ending it all. I was isolated in that relationship. I have no friends nor family. I have been my only support through this. I had to move to another town. Sometimes I feel I don't have the strength to continue. I was stripped of my self worth, my soul, my dreams, and even my hope. I don't know who I am anymore. This life seems like a nightmare that I can't wake up from. What little compassion that is left in my heart goes out to all the women who have been through this and made it out alive. I pray we all can heal!!!

So true🙌🏻I didn’t realize that he was isolating me!! If I work: where are you!! If I’m home: your always home!!! I have no freedom!! I thought after years of being with a narcissist I would never be in another covert abusive relationship!! There are so many versions of abuse 😔Thank you for this eye opening video 🙏🏻

After four years, I left last month. I couldn’t take the blatant disrespect. It was tearing me down badly. Even if there are no other romantic relationships in my life, staying wasn’t tolerable any longer. My mental and physical health were deteriorating. He did it on purpose with no remorse. He enjoyed it. Ocean of red flags and getting worse. Life is better without him.

I'm choosing to love myself first... I walked away from the situation plenty of times and today is my new beginning. I've mad a promise to myself that I deserve better. I will replay this video as many times as I need to, to stay mentally strong!

I can't stop crying. Everything you say is so accurate and empowering