Couples Counselling with a Narcissist

Very true. I tried marriage counseling and the second the therapist pointed out a behavior that hurt me, he went on a rage, stormed out, and the hell lasted weeks. My personal therapist told me to immediately stop marriage counseling for my safety. I’m currently looking into resources to get out, but with how expensive everything is and how you g my kids are, I’m stuck at home with a part time job and no where to go.

"You're trying to make me look bad!" All I did was play back the footage.

"She doesn't get to leave when I'm still angry." I know this is a reenactment, but that line gave me shivers. Very scary.

Oh man. My ex really tried saying "You made me look bad!" After I let his family know I left him due to his drug use and abuse. I said "No. You made you look bad."

Growing up with a narcissistic parent… this almost made me cry.

Reminds me of the Amber Heard trial.

You just gave a snippet of exactly what my dad does. He's the narcissist portrayed in the video and his reactions are exactly what I'm told all the time "If you didn't do this I wouldntve yelled" "You make me do these things" "It's not my fault"

Excellent video. They recommend never having couple counseling with a therapist if the partner is highly narcissistic. I had marriage counseling and it just didn't work.

I like how this was basically the Johnny/Amber trial, but she reversed the gender to show the severity (aka the note at the beginning). Perfect

"You made me do it" yep, I feel this SO HARD. My brother put holes in my bedroom door trying to get to me to beat me up, said "You're so lucky this door is locked or you'd be dead right now". Then the next morning when he "apologized" to me he still made it my fault and told me I shouldn't have "provoked him".

Holy fuck I react similarly to the narcicist when I fight with my gf. I got a few things to think about....

My mom does this to me. I feel that I'm getting to emotional to have a rational conversation and tell her I need a couple minutes to myself in my room to calm down and collect myself. Then she threatens to ground me and take away everything that causes me joy so I can't leave. Then I end up crying because she yelled at me while I was already at the breaking point. Then she gets mad at me for crying, essentially forces me to finish the conversation, then sends me away telling me that she can't be around me right now. From the videos I've seen so far, it sounds like she's a narcissist and a hypocrite 🥲(2 more years then I can move out and away for college🤞)

Omg almost that exact thing happened to me but when he grabbed my purse all it’s contents flew everywhere and he said “Look what you did!!” Me? I left a few months later

“Ask her why I did it!” — I felt this. Narcissists always make their reaction your fault. It’s crazy-making.

Been there, still there. It just like dealing with a 4 year old. Completely exhausting.

My ex refused therapy for this exact reason. He'll never tell you that though. 🤷‍♀️

Can you do one of these for a covert narcissist? The victim is accused of the overreaction because any attempt at personal conversation is ignored (or at best, dismissed as a non issue) by the covert narcissist. When the victim finally snaps from the extended, repetitive silent treatment, they look bad for reacting so emotionally to a "gentle" person. There are no effs given by the narcissist for the lack of communication, nor for hurt feelings or lack of connection--only for the victim's eventual reaction to the silent treatment. And voila, the narcissist gets to be the innocent victim.

My father literally did this to me and got mad when my mother demanded an explanation Like he blocked me from leaving

"That's not the point," when having a debate or argument is a big red flag that someone may be an abuser. You don't get to say what other people's point is.

This sounds like Amber Heard