►► Begin to Truly Trust Yourself & Believe in Your Own Worth. Learn more About The Matthew Hussey Retreat. . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com Produced by Jameson Jordan and Matthew Hussey Edited by Jeremy Gray @jeremylogangray ▼ Don’t Miss Out! Subscribe to my YouTube channel now. I post new love life advice for you every weekend. ▼ In the aftermath of a toxic or narcissistic relationship, we can lose all sense of self. Whether our partner tried to steal our joy at every opportunity, or they wore down our self-esteem with endless arguments and cold-shoulder treatments . . . the end of a relationship like this will leave us feeling disoriented and lost, and it can be hard to rewire our brains and resume normal life once we’re free. At this point, it can be unbelievably hard to trust other people again. Logically, we may understand that not everyone’s like our ex . . . but emotionally, we see danger at every turn. But there is a way we can heal—so we can move on and learn to trust ourselves again. And in today’s video, I share 3 mindsets that can help you do just that. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com ▼ Get My Latest Dating Tips and Connect With Me… ▼ Blog → https://www.howtogettheguy.com/blog/ Facebook → https://facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey Twitter → https://twitter.com/matthewhussey ▼ Chapters ▼ 0:00 – 1:58 – When a Toxic Person Becomes Our World 1:58 – 3:55 – How This Rewires Our Brain 3:55 – 4:59 – #1 Rewrite the Narrative of That Relationship 4:59 – 6:09 – The Stories We Create 6:09 – 6:51 – #2 Celebrate the Small, Brave Steps You Take 6:51 – 10:10 – Run Mini-Experiments 10:10 – 13:02 – #3 Stumbles Are Okay 13:02 – 15:49 – How to Measure Progress 15:49 – 16:23 – Trusting Yourself 16:23 – 17:49 – Deep Work
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Whoever reads this, please please please do not give up after heartbreak. Let love rule. ❤
To everyone trying to heal themselves from a painful separation from a toxic situation, it will be better someday. Everything will fall in place. We will heal from it❤
It’s so overwhelming to see how many people needed this video, myself included. We are not alone, even though that’s not a consolation but it means a lot when you think that you are the only one feeling this pain.
"Rewrite the story. This is not a story about how people can't be trusted, this is a story about what happens if you continue to ignore the evidence about one person." That hit deep and it should be a mantra!
let’s all heal together.
I met my ex over coffee yesterday and when you see someone's eyes empty of love for you , meeting you and talking to you out of pity and for the sake of their own guilty, that is when you know you should stop and focus on your well being , there is no love there anymore , there is no hope , you are just delaying your healing. Also she told me " times heals" while i told her i love her and i miss her a lot!! That is a perfect answer!! That i needed. But not all exes are polite , not all of them care or feel guilty !! Don't let others determine your healing !! Start within yourself !!
Matthew, as a victim of severe domestic violence, who is now thriving and ready for a loving committed husband, I must emphasize.. .... This video is definetly your best and most important work. Thank you from me, my sisters and my daughters.. please continue to create additional videos about the mental blocks that keep us single. Bless you.
Three minutes in, and I started crying. For the next 8-10 minutes I was crying my eyes out. Matthew, your voice was so calming and supportive, that my psyche felt safe enough to grieve those three worst years of my life. I left the relationship almost three years ago, yet it left so much damage that it affects me to this day. Thank you for addressing this topic, I can not express how important it is. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Toxic people complain that you ask for too much while at the same time trying to get you to still engage them when they want. They call the shots. Push pull. Cut em loose! No shortage of these people. There ain’t nothing special about them.
When he said "then you stayed and tried harder, and they didn't improve...so you stayed and tried harder, and they didn't improve" - that hit me so hard especially with the tone you did of understanding. Thank you for helping me find what my arc is: becoming the person who recognizes red flags and exits quicker. I don't have to be distrustful in the future and I can actively focus on something that will help me not feel worried about being taken advantage of.
Really moved by this video. I'm going through a tough time right now after 18 years together, my wife left. She won’t talk to me anymore, and no matter what I do, I can't seem to reach her. It's been incredibly hard. I can’t stop thinking about her, and I honestly don’t see a future without her. I don’t even know why I’m posting this here, maybe just needed to say it out loud to someone.
I went through this for years. If you are struggling, I want to assure you, learning to honor yourself is the key. Each man is a lesson and it’s okay. It’s all okay. Break your own cycle and move on.
Sometimes, the ex causes so much pain that they give you ptsd. It's not easy at all to open your heart again after that!
I hope you heal from things someone never apologized from ❤❤❤
I've come out of such an emotionally abusive relationship that now, I've lost complete sense of self. I've given given and given that now, I'm empty, the tank is empty. It's crazy how I really let myself go through all of this abuse. It's real folks, very real
You can’t know how timely all this is after literally yesterday. Im going to change my narrative this time around be believing that it is, in fact, his problem and not mine. That if my infinite love isn’t enough then nothing will be. Thanks lovely Matthew ❤
These past few weeks have been some of the hardest of my life. A month ago, the man I spent five years with someone I loved deeply and considered my best friend walked away. Since then, I’ve been completely heartbroken. He wasn’t just someone I loved; he truly saw me in a way no one else ever has. Now, even the happiest memories hurt. Some days I hold it together. Other days, it all feels like too much. People keep saying time heals, but right now, everything still feels raw. I’m only sharing this because keeping it bottled up hasn’t helped it’s just been weighing heavier and heavier on me
I was discarded from a 4 year narcissistic relationship in October and this is exactly how I’ve been feeling. After the discard I found out about all her lies and cheating. I went full detective and started reaching out to her old neighbors and friends. They all had stories of abuse towards her sisters, brother, mother and even her own kids. I then spoke to her ex husband and he told me stories of physical and emotional abuse. I’ve been struggling to move on and I still want that relationship with her. She immediately had a new supply and has started showing him off on social media and it’s been excruciating. I just have to keep reminding myself he’s the next victim and this is all a show. Videos like this help me try and refocus my thoughts and continue to move forward.
You have no idea how perfectly timed this is.... and I really needed to hear it today. Almost everything you said chimed, after almost 18 months in a long -distance online relationship that started during lockdown. I've been so disrespected and hurt over and over again by this guy that I'm not even like the same person I was before. People don't seem to understand how emotionally attached you can become: "but you've never met!" I've been trying to un-entangle myself for months and finally 3 days ago told him we should cut all contact and not speak to each other. He didn't want that (he's toxic and manipulative).... so I told him to leave me alone. I feel like I need to "recalibrate".... that was the perfect word you used. I need to get the old funny, gregarious, jovial me back again
A significant step in letting go and moving on is to stop playing the "if/then" game. "If I had X, then he would not have ghosted me." "If I had said ABC instead of DEF, he'd still be with me." "If I had given him more Y and Z, then he wouldn't have left me to go back to his ex." You can never say the wrong thing to the right guy. There was nothing you could have said or done to make them change their mind. It's okay to grieve for a bit. Then pick yourself up and keep moving on