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THIS is the kind of content I'd much rather see and hear from these guys like Andrew Bustamante, Jack Carr, Chase Hughes, Evy Poumpouras, and the others. I'm sure people enjoy watching and hearing these former CIA, Navy Seals, Green Berets, and Intelligence Interrogators talk about their time in the military or the agencies, and I'm sure people enjoy hearing their thoughts and opinions on what's happening in the world around us right now as well... but I'm just being transparent here - THIS is the kind of content I'd rather see and hear out of these guys, even if they need to make a separate channel to make it happen. As a person who grew up with a great amount of complex childhood trauma, I just never got this kind of teaching. I don't yet know what I don't know so I have no idea what questions I should be asking but I'm desperate to learn and grow. I want to know what the concepts and skills are that the military teaches in an effort to become that person I've always wanted to be though. I've watched a lot of videos on growth and development but these military guys and intelligence agency guys are the ones who seem to explain it best when they're willing to go there on that type of topic. Chase is extremely good at teaching social conversational skills - I absolutely LOVE it when he teaches "if they say that, then you say this". That has helped me sooo much in overcoming social anxiety and it has made me a better person as a whole. I really do wish these guys would teach more on topics and concepts that just help us to become better versions of ourselves... I also want to learn how to build and maintain mental toughness. I'm hoping one of them will go there with that topic sometime soon. I desperately want to learn how to become a high performance and mental toughness kind of person. (Yes, I would go into the military if I could but I have a full hearing loss in one ear, also due to the complex childhood trauma, so I am not eligible. Even after having scored super high on the ASVAB and graduating state university with a 3.75 GPA. Nonetheless, I want that training that they get in the military - the training I'll never get to experience. Sigh. I just want to become a better person and I know full well that these guys are the ones to learn it from. Obviously, I would love to buy the online training and courses most of them offer but I just don't have that in the budget at the moment so I'm extremely thankful that you guys are offering that same teaching, training, and information here on Youtube too.). Thank you sooo much for all the growth and development content you put out - this kind of content is huge for people like me who grew up with no home training, no intentional parenting, and no teaching on life skills. Having grown up with severe complex childhood trauma, I just did not get any teaching and training on mental toughness, solid social skills, let alone, life lessons on how to even be productive and successful so thank you for all you do to get this content out there. I don't know if you realize how much of an impact it's made on so many of us who didn't get that kind of training but it's made a huge difference in my life for sure, and likely many others as well.
Chase, I am married to a retired Army Colonel/Critical Care Doctor who is a narcissist with a rage disorder. Some of what you teach works. He rage baits me by saying the cruelest things about me or anyone I care about, and I admit at times I take the bait which feeds him, I can see his delight and he typically begins mocking me at that point. If I go silent he becomes enraged, if I answer his obscure questions he uses the answer to continue the fight. He will go on for hours. I hide behind a locked door if I can get to a safe space. He is in therapy and participates in a group class for Vets with rage disorders so there is a desire to change- He is estranged from 2 of his kids which is the carrot. I am exhausted and losing self. Please make more of these videos on this subject, it helps me to know there are tactics to help me and him during his emotional disconnects. I enjoy your work. Thank you.
This is my new favorite _"How To Deal With Assholes...Especially If One Of Them Is Me"_ channel. 😎
Silence is GOLDEN. That kind of silence is very LOUD. Be STOIC.
And also, if you keep thinking of a certain person while listening to this, that is a sign that that person needs to be deleted from your life if possible
this was absolutely excellent. I think my problem is that I just don’t really care. I have a family member who is a narcissist and very difficult, and I usually just tell her, “you’re just repeating yourself and I’m not going to listen to it “and I walk away and disengage and then I don’t have to deal with her. And I don’t really care. My poor husband, he does deal with her. it frustrates him no end. I think this is an excellent video for him to watch. I also just call her out on it and tell her she’s being manipulative and narcissistic and have a nice day and I leave . Drives her nuts.
It’s just straight facts. Some people’s rock bottom mentally is dead.
Cut them off. Block them. Absolve yourself of them & leave them to their own misery.
I always say, "It sounds like you're having some inner conflict, I'll pray for you" Luckily I work for myself so don't have to pacify any narcissists. That's my firm response to narcissists, they usually change the subject or just shut up.
Sometimes just asking these questions will also show you that people aren’t manipulating. They’re actually delusional.
Heard on another podcast that dealing with a narcissist is like being in a tornado but you didn’t realize you were in a tornado until you get yourself away from them. You leave the team, the job, the group, the marriage. Then you can think and breathe again in open spaces with a renewed mind.
Many narcissistic people never confront the damage they cause until very late in life — sometimes when they realize how alone they’ve become.
"F.O.G. Manipulators will use one of these to get to you (fear, obligation, guilt)." Wise words, but in my experience they usually bring on all 3. 2 at the very least.
Don’t take on a narcissist! They will take all of your mental energy. Just get away from them
No adaptation and a clear tangible NO - Zero tolerance
I lived with an abusive narcissist and when all was said and done I also prevented him from getting a gun license. The RCMP contacted me wondering why I wasn't a reference on his application. There was a harrassment report filed against him and the RCMP contacted me. He and I had a very interesting conversation about him. He never did get that license.
A woman that says "You never help around the house. 'm always the one cleaning" is probably telling the truth 😂 And usually the other person walks away to avoid making any kind of effort.
7:46 *No matter how calm and polite you are "labelling a manipulator's behavior" in any manner, it WILL BE perceived as confrontational.*
Any criticism whatsoever, even well intended constructive criticism will cause them to rage